As artists dealing with these powerful tools, we yield a particular type of power. And one way in which we can make a difference through our writing is in how we utilize our words to frame experiences.
Todays visitor post comes from Ritu Kaushal, the author of the narrative The Empaths Journey, which TEDx speaker Andy Mort calls “a fascinating insight into the life of a highly delicate person and psychological empath.” Ritu was just recently awarded the silver medal at the distinguished REX awards, set up by the United Nations & & iCONGO in India, and given to individuals developing social impact through their work. Ritu composes about highly sensitive creatives on her blog Walking Through Transitions. Her work has actually been featured on Sensitive Evolution, Tiny Buddha, and Elephant Journal, amongst others.
As a writer, every day, I become increasingly more mindful of the power of words. Words can heal, and words can break.
I will talk about my own personal experiences as a heterosexual lady and the words that make me unpleasant here. I know that depending on your context, you will have your own particular examples. My hope is that some of these examples will help you consider what troubles you and either banish those words or contextualize them in your own writing.
The older I get, the more I believe the opposite is true.
Its simpler for numerous of us to recover more quickly from physical injuries than to separate ourselves from the sting of words. We dont typically acknowledge their power and, so, unfavorable words can worm their way into our hearts.
” Sticks and stones might break my bones.But words will never injure me.”
I used to think this rhyme was true when I was younger. At the very least, I believed I “must” attempt to measure up to it. I “must” attempt to not let individualss words affect me, not let their rugged edges leave me cut and bleeding. After all, they were just words.
Be Conscious of Words that Minimize Womens Experiences
What terms and words make you feel mad and hurt or that puzzle you due to the fact that they seem to have a double meaning? Thats a hint to a word that conceals and demeans, not lights up.
Maturing in India, I frequently heard the term “eve teasing” used a lot. It was a blanket term for different kinds of public sexual harassment that Indian ladies go through every day. It included quite much everything from suggestive remarks and catcalls to sexual aggressiveness like searching in buses and trains. Its only bit by bit that I started realizing how much of a euphemism this term is. Its a minimizer that blurs the lines and puts the blame squarely on the lady– as misogynistic words do– with Eve referring to the interpretation of Eve as a temptress in the Bible.
Of course, this is a culture-specific term utilized in India and other South Asian countries. Language is utilized to blunt the raw force of our feelings. Its up to us when we have the opportunity as authors to reword the language we come across, to frame words that harm us, to clear out the weeds that choke our true stories.
Confess Missteps and Take Other Peoples Feedback into Account
Words mattered to me. In this case, I was truly on the same page as her however had actually missed the possibility to link because of the words I had actually utilized. I decided that unless there was a specific factor for doing so, I wouldnt utilize quotes like this.
She went through my online work and decreased partially because of this quote I had included in a short article. I was, in fact, the last individual to discriminate versus females. My intent and focus had been on the “marvel” part, not on the usage of the word “guy” to represent all mankind.
: I like a lot of Carl Jungs work and although the title of his book Man and his Symbols is extremely sexist, I, of course, cant alter that when I talk about it. The truth is they would use some terms that modern-day metropolitan people think of as sexist. I may utilize “eve teasing” in a discussion but can likewise take care to show how the character begins relating to the word and withstanding it.
Am I perpetuating a word? Or am I calling it out?
Words that Limit Women likewise Limit Men
How can we utilize them well? How can we yield the power we have so that it lights up our path, rather of collapsing into the darkness?
Ritu writes about extremely delicate creatives on her blog Walking Through Transitions. Her work has been featured on Sensitive Evolution, Tiny Buddha, and Elephant Journal, amongst others.
As writers, we understand intuitively that words are not simply words. Words are important due to the fact that they are energy.
In his stunning book on composing, Drinking from the River of Light, Mark Nepo talks about how the opposite of reasonable is not unreasonable, but user-friendly. These are two methods of connecting to the world, and they are both legitimate and important. They are the yin and the yang that deep space is made from. When we call women irrational, we are discounting the power of instinctive understanding, which resides not only in women however also in guys. And when we state that women are emotional, we cut ourselves off from considering how both ladies and males can carry emotions appropriately and inappropriately.
Words like psychological, hormonal, moody are suspect word options. What exactly do we suggest when we utilize them? Who is saying these words matters.
Words are swords– in some cases a sword that can cut us deep, and sometimes, a sword of light that can cut through our blocks.
In this case, I was really on the exact same page as her but had missed out on the possibility to link due to the fact that of the words I had used. I might use “eve teasing” in a discussion however can also take care to show how the character starts relating to the word and withstanding it.
Words like psychological, hormonal, moody are suspect word choices. As authors, we understand intuitively that words are not just words.
My intention and focus had actually been on the “wonder” part, not on the use of the word “man” to represent all mankind.