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last 8 years amplifying the voices of independent publishers and authors. He deals with authors as a book editor to prepare their work to be released. Howard is also a freelance writer specializing in Jewish concerns whose work appears regularly in Publishers Weekly, the Jewish Daily Forward, and Longreads. Find Howard at howardlovy.com, LinkedIn and Twitter. Read the transcript of my interview with J. D. Remy. Howard Lovy: Im Howard Lovy and youre listening to Inspirational Indie Authors. Each week
Listen to my interview with J. D. Remy.
My visitor this week is Dr. J. D. Remy. Dr. Remy had an ideal life for a little while, until what he calls Implosion Day, when he lost everything.
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On Transitioning from Doctor to Patient.
As a recuperating alcoholic, Im also a recuperating egoist, a narcissist, as I believe many specialists tend to be, a lot of whom do not even realize it. And in addition to an alcohol healing, I had to go through an ego and narcissism healing, and an emotional healing.
Theres no feeling that I will ever experience once again, like rolling into my own ER with alcohol poisoning, and being looked after by the very same nurses and doctors whom I worked alongside simply a week before. I was now the patient. As far as I was concerned, that was it, game over, Im done. I was hospitalized for alcohol intoxication and I was moved into a patient setting where I had to play the patient.
Weekly I talk to a member of ALLi to discuss their writing and what influences them, and why they are motivating to other authors.
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A couple of highlights from our interview:.
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learn what influences them and how they are a motivation to other authors. My visitor today is Dr. J.D. Remy. Well, thats not his real name, but as
sober and Im enjoyed be an emergency doctor. Howard Lovy: And J.D.s story
am actively practicing emergency medication to this day. I have actually authored a narrative referred to as Ballad of a Sober Man, An ER Doctors Journey of Recovery. I enjoy writing, running, playing with my dog, and playing my guitar. Im enjoyed live; Im enjoyed be
youll hear in this program, he has actually changed it to protect not just his own identity, but that of his kids. Dr. Remy had an ideal life for a little while till what he calls implosion day, when he lost whatever. He composes about it in his new book, however Ill let Dr. Remy inform his own story. J.D. Remy: Hello, my name is J.D. Remy. Im a physician, Im an alcoholic in long term healing, and I
of how he overcame his alcohol addiction, includes his pet dog, his guitar and other things that kept him active in the real
world when he had actually lost all hope. First though, lets discover more about J.D. J.D. Remy: Well, I was born in New York city. After my parents separated really early in life, I moved with my mom and sis to Northern New Jersey. I lived an extremely low profile, suburban New Jersey existence. I tended to be a little fearful maturing, but I enjoyed my pals and my family. I found myself engaged
I always prided myself on understanding a certain quantity about a lot of different subjects, rather than having an extensive knowledge of any one specific subject. So, when I got to medical school, I recognized that I needed to know a bit about all facets of medicine, and what a much better place for an adrenaline junkie to want to understand about all specialties than the emergency department. And so, I found myself kind of loitering around emergency situation departments as a medical trainee, even in my time off, simply to observe the action, and I decided that was for me.
to his confidence when he started sneaking in alcoholic slipping here and there. J.D. Remy: I keep in mind being afraid of my own shadow growing up, and I likewise remember when my moms and dads threw celebrations.
J.D. Remy: I formed a Haiti mission right after the huge earthquakes in 2010, and I formed a group and went down there every year
in outside activities on a routine basis. I entered into running in high school. I found my own little circle of good friends and wound up going to college in Pennsylvania, and ultimately chose, in college, I wanted to be a physician, after almost failing out of an economics class. And so, I switched midstream my freshman year and went premed and chose, as I tend to be focused and punch my method through, to complete college and go straight through to medical school residency and on into emergency situation medication. It was a directly through without any detours for me. I was delighted, I was inspired, and I was constantly focused on the next big thing, and for me, that was attaining my Doctor of Medicine and going out into the world to practice emergency medicine. Howard Lovy: Why particularly emergency medicine? Well, it has something to do with J.D. being addicted to adrenaline, which looking back may have been an indication for other dependencies. J.D. Remy: Well, I found myself very early on, despite the fact that I was hesitant and really tentative as a kid, I was constantly drawn in to excitement. I was a bit of an adrenaline addict.
J.D. Remy: Strangely, not just was I the first physician in my household, however I was the first alcoholic in my family. Howard Lovy: So, as J.D. says, when he was a kid, he was afraid of his own shadow, however something took place
In high school, I wanted to be part of the gang part of the crowd, and so I went to a few parties and had a few beers and I got a buzz going, and I was more confident with ladies at the party. Howard Lovy: So, J.D. embarked on his profession as an ER doctor. J.D. Remy: And that all kind of fed into this ego, which became increasingly pumped up over the years.
Therefore I chose to get expensive and have luxurious parties and stock an extremely great damp bar with all sort of top-shelf alcohol, which I shared at the celebrations, and then became taking from, after the parties ended, to keep the party in my mind going, and to keep myself soothed from the anxieties and the stresses that were starting to develop at work and the pressures that were starting to establish at house. No matter how lots of confident layers I put on, no matter the number of abilities I had, I had a great deal of unsolved dispute. I was, in basic, very afraid as a kid, and that really never left me.
to a rural orphanage, and we took care of that same orphanage exact same the same childrenExact same run by
the same patient pastor every yearExact same J.D. Remy: My marital relationship was on the rocks, the kids, while wonderful kids, were worrying me out, and just
being a father and daddy the right thingIdeal and the more I drank, the more I felt stressed and stressed out when Nervous wasnt drinking. I went to my physicians workplace with a buzz going, so I wouldnt reveal the shakes.
I felt like I was still Dr. Remy, that I need to be in control of my own care, that I knew what I was doing and that nobody else might do it as well as I could. Howard Lovy: So, Dr. Remy is now patient Remy, a recuperating alcoholic. J.D. Remy: As a recovering alcoholic, Im also a recuperating egoist, a narcissist, as I think lots of specialists tend to be, numerous of whom do not even realize it.
not something that I can outrun, conceal from with alcohol, or prevent, its something I need to experience and spiritually grow beyond. Howard Lovy: I will not hand out whatever in J.D.s book, but he describes the process of healing from alcoholism, from narcissism and from physical and psychological pain. Because every recovery is unique, it is a narrative different from other recovery stories. Dr. Remy eventually earned the right to practice medicine once again, in the nick of time for the COVID-19 pandemic. This, certainly, includes another layer of stress and anxiety to his work and his life, however this time, Dr. Remy is prepared. J.D. Remy: I feel like often my higher power has quite the funny bone, you understand, here I am having actually lost professionally, lost it all, clawing my way back, returning into medication and ultimately stepping up, lastly to the point where Im beyond where I was when I left before rehabilitation, and what do I get thrown at me is an around the world pandemic. Therefore, I feel as a doctor in recovery, handling whatever comes my method on a day to day basis is actually a lot easier than it would
have actually been, because I acknowledge it is as it is, and I handle things one thing at a time, one day at a time. You want me to wear a mask? You want me to go into spaces with full PPE on to see coronavirus patients, people with serious COVID, who I place on ventilators? Well, thats what Im going to do, and Im going to do the very best job I can. And its going to be processed in such a way thats not a great deal various from any other ill clients I take care of. I dont sit there at night and wonder whats going to happen tomorrow at work. I just enter and I do my job. My program has permitted me to be in the moment and not live in a future of what if, what if this happens? What if that takes place? What if I get ill? What if my family gets sick? No, Im here, Im now, Im going to do the very best I can with the circumstances that Ive been handed.
I was deconstructed, evaluated, and put back together. I had to discover appreciation. I needed to find out humbleness and those are counter to ego and narcissism, within me. Therefore, there I went, chipping away at my ego, breaking away at my failure to accept, and it needed a fundamental
change within myself, something I could refrain from doing by myself. I needed to be body slammed in rehab. I had to be knocked around and brought to my senses, and it required time and its still an operate in progress. I remained in rehabilitation; I was no bigger than anyone else. I got out of rehab; I was in a circumstance where I had no money. I had a very, extremely standard routine labor task for minimum wage. My sponsors taught me that humbleness would defeat narcissism and bitterness, and there were many other elements that went into my healing along those lines, and it was a steady procedure. The miracle of the shift for those who recover from alcohol and drug dependency, I believe, takes place extremely gradually and systematically, and it does not immediately happen. It needs a load of work, a lots of self-questioning and an enormous amount of help from who I call my healing mosh pit, those people who held me up when I could not base on my own; my sponsors, my therapists, my network of sober good friends, my network of past life friends, all of these individuals together taught me what I required to know. And by going to conference after meeting, and it wasnt all about AA, however
it was a big part of it, I actually had to develop, spiritually, beyond my jailed advancement, caused by alcohol addiction. Howard Lovy: In Dr. Remys book, he blogs about how his kids no longer desired any contact with him, which is an unpleasant sufficient experience for anyone to go through. In the past, the way he dealt with discomfort was to consume it away. Now, there was just the discomfort. J.D. Remy: Experiencing pain is something I needed to learn how to do from the outset, and the discomfort of estrangement from my children, is one
J.D. Remy: Hello, my name is J.D. Remy. However, lets learn more about J.D. J.D. Remy: Well, I was born in New York city. J.D. Remy: I formed a Haiti mission right after the huge earthquakes in 2010, and I formed a group and went down there every year
of the best discomforts I have and currently am experiencing. Simply since it is discomfort doesnt indicate I have to suffer, you understand, pain has two components in society. It has the initial physical or psychological aspects, and then it has the mental addition, a layer of, why me, poor
me self-pity. If you can get rid of that self-pity, the why me and the poor me, experience the discomfort and recognize that Im improving, that Im living one day at a time, making amends one day at a time, and also acknowledge that I need to turn it over to my higher power, that things will take place according to strategy, and I can just do the finest I can do right now. So, the discomfort exists, the pain never disappears. Im not necessarily suffering, but pain is
to a rural orphanage, and we took care of that same orphanage with the same childrenExact same kids by
the same patient pastor every year. Howard Lovy: So, Dr. Remy is now patient Remy, a recuperating alcoholic. Howard Lovy: In Dr. Remys book, he writes about how his kids no longer wanted any contact with him, which is a painful enough experience for anybody to go through.